I’m Not Sure if I Should Stay or Go
You haven’t decided if divorce is the right choice, but once you’ve let the thought in, it’s hard to push it away. You cycle through “it’s not that bad” to “I honestly don’t thing I can do this anymore”. It can feel like a never-ending space of confusion, and you keep searching for an easier answer. You may find yourself asking questions like:
Will my kids be okay if I choose divorce?
What kind of example am I setting if I stay? And what do I do with the guilt if I go?
What are the actual logistics of separation — mediation, cost, child sharing arrangements, housing, finances — that I need to prepare for?
How will my friends, family, or community see me if I’m the one who leaves?
Is there something I haven’t tried that could turn my marriage around?
This is one of the most painful crossroads you will ever face. It can feel impossible to choose, but when you’re making such a life-altering decision, clarity matters.
Finding Clarity in the Confusion
The truth is that the issues you’re struggling with now are often the same issues you’ll face during and after divorce. That’s why clarity isn’t just about whether to divorce, it’s about understanding the dynamics that are keeping you stuck and what choices you have in front of you.
Through coaching, you’ll get a confidential and nonjudgmental space to:
Explore the questions that keep circling in your mind
Understand your options and the process of divorce if you choose that path
Learn new ways of communicating that help you to protect your wellbeing
Identify the patterns that may continue to cause pain, whether you stay or go
Communicate your fears out loud so you can face them with honesty
When Staying Is Still an Option
Sometimes you don’t need to divorce your spouse. You need to divorce the dynamic you have with them. That’s where couples coaching can help. If there’s still a possibility for healing and repair, I’ll work with you and your spouse to uncover unhealthy patterns, improve communication, and imagine a new way forward together.
And if you do choose divorce, I’ll walk with you every step of the way, helping you set expectations, avoid costly mistakes, and begin the process of remaking your life with clarity and strength.
You Don’t Have to Decide Alone
Whether you ultimately stay or go, coaching gives you the space, the tools, and the support to make your decision eyes-wide-open. You don’t have to figure this out in isolation.