Divorce and Your New Year
New Year’s resolutions are hard when you’re moving through divorce and recovery.
While my friends committed to giving up alcohol or body weight, I remember my favorite line in divorce was “I’m giving up hope for the new year.”
It’s dark sometimes, isn’t it?
So rather than resolutions right now, let’s do some reflections.
Below are a few of my favorite questions to ask yourself to review the year and set yourself up for what the year ahead may ask of you:
What did I start to figure out (or maybe even accept) about my former partner this year that helps me do divorce or post-divorce life better?
What did I start to figure out (or maybe even accept) about my own life now that helps me do life better for me?
Pick three words to describe the struggles of this past year.
Pick three words to describe the qualities you’ve appreciated about yourself in this past year.
What was the biggest thing you learned this past year regarding your divorce healing?
If you could forecast one word to guide you through the new year related to your divorce, what would that word be?
Fast forward a few years in your mind…what does the 2027 version of you already know? What could s/he tell you today to help you hold onto a string of hope?
I know that most of you want this hurting, flailing, ruminating, still unresolved part of divorce to be over. It’s not yet.
These questions are designed for you to love on yourself while you are figuring it out, not punish you for not being across the finish line by now.
Blessings on you both now and in the new year!
