Divorce will break you, but I’m more interested in your remaking.
Instead of trying to navigate this challenging moment alone, imagine moving through the transition with a trusted voice by your side as you take each new step toward your unfolding future.
Your mind won’t stop circling the same questions over and over again. What am I supposed to do now? How will I support myself and my family? Will my kids be okay? What is my identity now? Why is my spouse so happy and I’m so miserable?
You’ve spent hours of emotional labor trying to navigate these questions all on your own. Even if you have supportive friends and family, they can’t help you with the solutions you really need and rarely offer you the hard truths that can move you forward.
A whole and healed family is within reach.
What would it be like to wake up feeling secure and equipped for the life ahead?
You’d wake up without the mental anguish, because you’re finally confident and prepared. Imagine being able to show up to your life fully because you’ve done the hard work.
You’ve moved away from unhealthy patterns of relating with your former spouse and you know how to bring your kids up in ways that free them to love both parents well. You think a lot more about you and a lot less about what your former partner can’t (or won’t) become. You have a plan for how to manage your own mind and heart, and you know how to execute it.
When you run into tricky situations around your divorce, you have the tools to address them head on. You’re truly and genuinely free. Now it's time to welcome the joy and smile in anticipation of what’s next because you made it beautiful.
Your family will be affected by divorce, but it doesn’t have to be broken.
Let’s turn broken into shared. Into differently-shaped. Into remade.
Your kids are counting on you to figure this out well. Let’s get started.
I know what it feels like to go through a painful divorce.
I was certain that I was going to fall irreparably apart and never get put back together. I didn’t know how to move past what was and step into what was to come.
Looking back, I wish I had a divorce coach to walk me through the pain, grief, loss, and heartbreak. I got stuck more than I needed to and took some winding paths that I now see could have been straighter. Getting through those first weekends without my children was so hard on my heart and welcoming new girlfriends and boyfriends into our family was tricky and complicated. Helping my heart to stretch in all of the ways it was being asked to felt impossible and defeating at times... But I also found the exhilaration of building an intentional post-divorce life marked by an alignment with my own values, an unwavering commitment to the wellbeing of my children, and an insistence that I would find a deeper expression of love for myself and my family along the way. This was my remaking, and it wouldn’t have been possible without the breaking.
You have a remaking waiting for you, too.
Divorce coaching for You
My one-on-one coaching program will help you step into the next phase of your life with your head held high. You're capable of healing and making something beautiful out of all this breaking. I will help you navigate your new circumstances, walk with the pain, and execute strategies for communication. The most helpful part? Your former partner doesn’t need to change a thing.
My strategic and supportive process will help you clarify your options, identify fears, blocks, and misconceptions to create a solid success plan for not only your divorce, but for the full and whole life that follows. Here are some of the things we’ll cover:
Understanding the divorce process, how to select the professionals you should hire, and how to manage your expectations
How to avoid costly mistakes and make informed decisions
How to advocate for yourself and negotiate respectfully for what you want and/or need
How to effectively communicate with your former spouse regardless of the circumstances and regardless of how difficult he is
How to effectively co-parent with your former spouse
How to prioritize self care and healthy choices
How to navigate your divorce while holding true to your values and highest self
What it looks like for you to move into acceptance and peace about what was and what will be
So much more!
Are you finally ready to reclaim your life and step into your beautiful remaking?
Are you treating your divorce attorney or therapist like a divorce coach?
This mistake will cost you emotionally and financially. Discussing your emotional challenges with your divorce attorney and your divorce logistics with your therapist will drain you and your pocketbook. The truth is your divorce attorney is trained, skilled, and interested in helping you navigate this season inside the courtroom, not outside of it. Your therapist can help you uncover and recover parts of your story. Here are some key differences and why a divorce coach is an important part of your team of advisors.
A Divorce Attorney:
This person serves as your legal representation. They will help you draft all the necessary paperwork, advise you about the divorce laws in your state, and negotiate to ensure you get the best possible divorce settlement.
They will not help you handle your former partner’s aggressive and combative attitude. They cannot help you get organized for the long, exhausting, stressful and emotionally taxing divorce process. And they are not on retainer to help you face your fears about your future or about your kids.
A Therapist:
This person is a mental health professional and can help with treatments for things like depression you might experience as a result of your divorce. A therapist will help you evaluate and confront your past and help you work through grief and loss. A therapist will help you focus on why certain patterns exist in your life.
They will not come alongside you with guidance in the divorce process or help you make the most of your costly hours with your attorney. They also won’t help you organize and gather the information you’ll need in your divorce so you feel confident and prepared. Since they focus on why certain patterns exist in your life, they focus less on how to think about your future and reach your goals going forward.
A Divorce Coach:
As your divorce coach and member of your team, I will help you focus on your future and create actionable goals as well as hold you accountable for them. I will help you navigate your new circumstances, execute strategies for communication and co-parenting, and make decisions with confidence and with your future in mind.
I will help you work through the seasonal firsts following your divorce such as creating new holiday traditions, regulating your emotions and reactions when your former spouse begins dating someone else, handling child rearing from two addresses, managing yourself when things are not going your way, and how to leverage your new alone time for accomplishing your goals.
Ultimately, I will help you cast forth a vision of where you want to be in this new place and set up the framework for how you pursue it until it’s yours. Discovery is at the heart of divorce coaching.
“Andrea’s Expertise Has Been Invaluable…My Entire Outlook And Dynamic With My Former Partner Has Improved Significantly. I Can’t Recommend Her Enough, She Has Genuinely Upgraded My Quality Of Life (And My Family’s By Default) With Her Tools, Guidance, Feedback And Support.”
—Gretchen
I Needed A Solution To Help Me Learn To Live With My Ex-Husband Who Is An Extreme Narcissist…What I Found In Andrea Was Far More Than I Had Ever Expected. The Tools I Was Given Helped Me Be Less Reactionary, More Empathetic, And The Person Who I Was Born To Be. I Only Wish I Had Met Her Earlier In My Divorce Process!
— Kelly
There are Four Options for How We Work together
Divorce Differently Signature Program
Divorce Differently is my signature transformative coaching program where you get unlimited support, unlimited access, and unlimited coaching for twelve months as we tackle everything related to your divorce. You’ll get the most results and the most input. It’s the program most of my clients gravitate toward, and the one that clears up the most divorce debris.
Divorce Differently is for people who are devoted to becoming known for how they beautifully handled their breaking and remaking. With only a few slots available for new clients each quarter, this work focuses you on creating and executing your long-term goals with careful attention to what you are building. Your commitment to radically shifting the way you show up in your divorce or in your post-divorce life will lay the foundation for everything that comes next. You will also receive unlimited email communication with me, custom homework, and priority scheduling.
Get more details on Divorce Differently here.
Divorce Differently: The Group
If you’re alone and wishing for a group of people who get what you are going through, then Divorce Differently: The Group is for you! We make sure you avoid becoming one of those “divorced” people when it’s all done (stuck, resentful, bitter). If you’re confused about how to make it through and start again, unsure of what it means to be at home in this new life and how to detach from your former partner, get on my Coaching Waiting List to make sure you don’t miss the next group opening.
Divorce Differently: The Course
If you’re look for a crash course on how to get a clear mind, drop the “I just can’t handle this” feeling, and create a beautiful two-address family, you are going to want to take Divorce Differently: The Course. It’s loaded with videos, reflections, and exercises that get you dealing with overwhelm purposefully, talking more successfully to your former partner, understanding why “just getting over it” isn’t working, and the learning how to say yes to this life (the unexpected one!). Divorce Differently: The Course is self-paced and designed for you to go through the material when it works for you.
Targeted Topical Coaching
If you’ve got one or two defined areas in your divorce that need attention, this approach is just what you need. Maybe it’s how to tell your partner you want a divorce, how to tell your kids, or how to tackle the overwhelm of moving on. With my short-term topical coaching, we zero in on a select number of your identified stuck areas and narrow in on vital short-term habits, communication styles, goals, and ways of relating in order to successfully navigate your divorce and/or your healing post-divorce. It’s just-in-time coaching for your most pressing divorce concerns. You can set up a free discovery call with me here to see if your topic is ideal for targeted topical coaching.
How does it work?
Here’s the Process:
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Jump on a quick discovery call with me. We’ll talk through your current circumstance and see if coaching can help you move forward.
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If we determine that you’re a great fit for coaching, we’ll establish which commitment is right for you and get clear on what we hope to accomplish.
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We then start your transformation through coaching, reflection, action items, and modeling. We move with intention and clarity toward what you need.
How to know you're a perfect fit for my programs
My programs are a perfect fit for you if:
You're ready to reclaim control over your life regardless of the circumstances
You're finally ready to have clarity around your divorce
You're ready to feel calm and confident with how you advocate for yourself and your family
You don’t want to walk through this process alone
You want to save time and money in your divorce
You want the best outcome for your kids
You want to make something beautiful from your post-divorced life
My wellness programs are NOT for you if you're looking for a quick fix to your painful divorce.
My coaching is built for sustainable change, and it takes time to process emotions, establish goals, implement strategies, and see the positive outcomes. While we will implement tools and mindset shifts immediately, it is through your intentional commitment and practice that you bring about the healing you crave.
FAQs
What if I’m not sure if I want to stay in my marriage?
That’s okay! My job is not to convince you that you need to get a divorce. I’m committed to helping you understand your options, clarify your goals, and make a plan. I can help you sort through the logistical and emotional questions that are keeping you from making an informed decision about what you want.
How can I justify This cost in addition to my Legal Expenses?
It’s true. You will have some legal expenses, but adding a divorce coach to your team of professionals can actually save you from racking up billable hours with your attorney because you haven’t processed your emotions, clarified your goals, and organized your information. And you can’t put a price on what it would feel like to have a clear mind, a confident sense of direction, and a strong sense of hope for the future.
What if I’m going through a high-conflict divorce? Can you still help?
Yes! High-conflict divorces present unique challenges, which is why it’s even more important to have an advocate walking with you each step of the way to ensure that you understand your options, make the best decisions for yourself and your family, and take critical steps to build a life that is whole and healed.
Can I work with you virtually?
Of course. Most of my coaching sessions occur virtually through a private and confidential Zoom call or phone call.